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  • Writer's pictureKylie Miles

The Do's and Don'ts of Hiring a Wedding Planner

If you're here, you've probably been sitting in front of a computer for the past 3 hours with 20 different wedding planner websites open trying to decide how on earth you're supposed to narrow down your options. Do you go with the one that understands your vision but is way out of your price range? How about the one that has lower prices but doesn't have a portfolio aligned with the style you want? What about the newer planner that you hit it off with immediately but doesn't have a lot of work to showcase? There really is so much to consider and it can be overwhelming to make a decision when all of your choices seem like they could be right. I don't want you to give up though, and I'm going to give you the rundown on what you should and should not be taking into consideration when making your final decision on which wedding planner to hire for your special day.

What you SHOULD do

Meet them first

This one may seem self explanatory but I know how easy it can be to look at a planners website and be so impressed that you're ready to book just based off of what you see. Girl, PLEASE resist that urge. A planner may be able to create your style exactly how you want but their personality could completely clash with yours and make the overall planning experience just horrible. If you really want your wedding experience to be stress free you need to be able to trust that everyone on your event is on your side, including your wedding planner.

Listen to your instincts

Trust. Your. Gut. If you have a weird feeling through the process that maybe there's something off about the planner or if there's some red flags that pop up, don't ignore it. Certain things like being pushy, nonresponsive, maybe even just being outright rude are huge indicators that working with them will not be pleasurable. If they are giving you these issues when they're trying to sell something to you, just imagine how it will be when you are comfortable with each other.

Prioritize someone who just gets it

The most important thing that I cannot stress enough is to go with the person who is just on the same wavelength as you. Your wedding planner should make you feel so comfortable and confident on your big day and you shouldn't have to worry about them not understanding what you want. Even if it means spending a little bit more money, I promise it is worth it to make sure your big day runs smoothly.

What you SHOULD NOT do

Fall for unrealistic promises

It's a wedding planners job to do anything they can to make sure your day is as unique and amazing as you are, but be wary of those that seem like they are promising you way more than other planners. Your relationship with your planner needs to be built off of honesty and trust and a good planner will know that being transparent about their prices and abilities is the best way to create that foundation. Don't just believe they can do anything they say they can. Do your research and verify that they have references or a portfolio that can back up their claims.

Ignore the red flags of high-pressure

If you have ever bought a car, you probably know what it feels like to have someone try and hustle you. Believe it or not, that can also be a common sales tactic in the wedding industry (on a lower scale of course). Watch out for planners who use high-pressure sales tactics to force you into making quick decisions. A reputable planner should provide information, answer questions, and give you time to consider your options without feeling rushed.

Rely solely on price

I feel like I see this the most out of any mistake couples make in their decision process. PLEASE for the love of all things good, do not choose a planner based solely off of price without knowing what you're getting into first. A wedding planner's fee many times reflects their experience, expertise, and the quality of service they provide.


I know it can be super overwhelming at first but take your time in your decision process. Weigh the options, consider what the most important aspects are to you and your significant other and go from there. Whichever wedding planner you decide on, go off of facts and knowledge and good things will come. Don't be afraid to ask questions and to dig in deep in the initial consultations. The right choice for you will have all of the answers you need to make you feel comfortable and confident in your decision and their abilities.

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